tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8973096.post110524669650418145..comments2023-06-24T05:22:49.574-07:00Comments on SBFH: Call me Sybil (or Ishmael)Psycho Kittyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633634991906191853noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8973096.post-1105368455740693002005-01-10T07:47:00.000-07:002005-01-10T07:47:00.000-07:00This teacher so obviously expects the Boy to fail....This teacher so obviously expects the Boy to fail. She expects him to cause trouble, to forget, to do things "wrong," and she doesn't let an opportunity go by to let him realize that. "Like every day"? WTF? Why the hell should he bother remembering to hang his coat up when the teacher obviously expects him to forget anyway? By saying "like every day" she's telling him that she DOESN'T expect him to do it, that she expects to remind him every day, so there's no point for him to even bother.<br /><br />This woman is POISON. Do NOT feel guilty for realizing that she is poison. At the same time, do NOT feel guilty for not knowing what direction to take, either. You sound like a powerful antidote to this horrible person. <br /><br />OMG, give me your address so I can send you a belated Christmas present of "How to talk so your kids will listen and listen so your kids will talk" (I swear, I do NOT get a royalty for the book) so you can read it and then whack her with it. OHHHH, I'm so burned up on your behalf!Krupskayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08665763126281611998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8973096.post-1105307863215029962005-01-09T14:57:00.000-07:002005-01-09T14:57:00.000-07:00Thanks, all. Oh, and I did say to her during our l...Thanks, all. Oh, and I did say to her during our last conversation, "I hope you're finding time to encourage him when he *does* do what we want him to do." (e.g., hang up his coat, sit quietly) And she said, "Oh, I always try to take time to tell all the kids "Good job" or "You're smart." At which point I nearly crawled through the phone so that I could gently explain the difference between harmful praise and *encouragement* while softly pounding her head against her desk.Psycho Kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05633634991906191853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8973096.post-1105304328808199962005-01-09T13:58:00.000-07:002005-01-09T13:58:00.000-07:00Firstly, I have to mention to you that my inner vo...Firstly, I have to mention to you that my inner voise often sings "If I only had a brain" - I don't know what that says about me. I don't want to know.<br /><br />Good luck with the ex situation. These things are never easy.<br /><br />Oh how I dread dealing with teachers and the public school system! It sounds to me (from my very limited knowledge, of course) that she spends a lot of time harping on your son when he's just a bit off task. (That "like every day" comment was out of line if you ask me! There is no reason to make him feel bad, especially in front of other students!) It help for her to use some of that energy to praise him when he is behaving. Praise always goes further. At any rate, good luck! I feel for you!Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13501710690472006659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8973096.post-1105279735738272642005-01-09T07:08:00.000-07:002005-01-09T07:08:00.000-07:00I agree, the teacher's a bitch. We've been throug...I agree, the teacher's a bitch. We've been through one of those. It was no fun. Unfortunately, I didn't do anything about it because I found out too late and just waited until the end of the year and did my best to support my son at home. It sounds like you're doing the best you can. I'm inclined the think that most kids--especially boys--have difficulty focusing at that age, but some boys are able to simply because they aim to please. Then the boys who aren't inclined to please look awful in comparison, when they're really just being normal. I'm not a child psychologist or anything--just my observations over the last 9 years of parenting.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10766222493968363248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8973096.post-1105262815916444282005-01-09T02:26:00.000-07:002005-01-09T02:26:00.000-07:00Good grief. Please God don't make me ever have to...Good grief. Please God don't make me ever have to deal with a teacher like that. No, wait, that was insensitive. The Boy's school situation sounds antagonstic and unbelievably frustrating. My mom (former learning disabilities resource room teacher and school diagnostician, now a school psychologist) deals with this all the time. Some teachers (and principals, unfortunately) feel imposed upon to have kids in their classes with any sort of "special" needs at all. Even when meeting the kid's needs doesn't take much effort. Even when it's obvious that the teacher's the problem, not the kid. <br /><br />I think you're making the right move by talking to the principal. I hope that it goes very well.Sarahlynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13658866017847046987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8973096.post-1105253535006094942005-01-08T23:52:00.000-07:002005-01-08T23:52:00.000-07:00Ooh, this teacher is awful! Hooray for you for mak...Ooh, this teacher is awful! Hooray for you for making an appt. with the principal. That teacher sounds like a real snot. Horrible approach. Has she never heard of "Catch them being good"? What's with this "Like every day" comment? Tell your boy to torment her so that she gets burned out and leaves teaching. Seriously.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8973096.post-1105248389443283492005-01-08T22:26:00.000-07:002005-01-08T22:26:00.000-07:00I made it all the way through your post (quite eas...I made it all the way through your post (quite easily!), and I think that you are a very good person! I can't imagine working all day and then being as patient and kind and loving toward your children as you seem to be and also being supportive to your ex and other friends and still giving a rat's ass about the rest of the world. You're amazing, and you should pat yourself on the back!What Now?https://www.blogger.com/profile/04017629066466055668noreply@blogger.com